You have noticed
for a while.
The distance. The silence. The avoidance. You know something is going on, but you say nothing. Out of fear of making it worse. Out of love. Out of uncertainty. This page is for you.
It affects you too.
When your partner is dealing with this, it doesn't just affect him. It affects your relationship. Your intimacy. How you look at each other. How you interact. And it seeps into everything.
You wonder if it's about you. It's not. You try to bring it up, but he shuts down. Or you both stay silent, and the distance grows.
This is not your fault. And it is not hopeless.
“My wife says nothing. But I know she thinks it's her fault. It's not her fault.”Mark, 49

More than half of all men over 40 recognise this.
Of all men over 40 deal with this. It is far more common than you think.
That is how long a man waits on average before seeking help. Often the partner is the one who takes the first step.
In a third of our intakes, the partner is present. That makes the conversation easier. For both of you.
What partners tell us.
You don't have to carry this alone. These are words we regularly hear from partners who call or join the intake.
“I notice he avoids me. No arm around me in bed anymore. No spontaneous kiss. It feels like he's afraid it will lead somewhere.”
“I brought it up carefully once. He got angry. Since then I've stayed silent. But it eats at me.”
“I know it's not about me. But somewhere, deep down, I still wonder.”
“He takes pills. Sometimes they work, sometimes not. But the spontaneity is completely gone. Everything has to be planned.”
“I found this clinic, but I don't dare to suggest it. I don't want him to think I'm putting pressure on him.”
“We talk about everything. Except this. And that might be the hardest part.”
Three ways to take the first step.
Share this page
Sometimes a link is enough. No conversation, no pressure. Simply: "I read this, and I thought of us." Copy the link and send it via WhatsApp or email.
Call for an orientation call yourself
You are welcome to call on behalf of your partner. Ten minutes, no obligation. You don't need to explain anything. We understand the situation. Many first calls are made by the partner.
Join the intake
We welcome that. The intake is his conversation, but you are welcome to sit in, ask questions, and discuss it together at home. That makes the pathway stronger.

The goal: making it work again. Without pills.
REVIVO is a men's health clinic. We treat erectile problems, prostate complaints and pelvic floor issues with regenerative therapies: focused shockwave, PRP, electromagnetic stimulation and prostate drainage. Painless, without surgery, without medication.
The pathway takes 8 to 12 weeks. Everything under the guidance of an experienced urologist. Discreet, thorough, and with measurable results.
What you should know
- More than 50% of all men over 40 recognise this
- The orientation call is free and without obligation
- You are welcome to call on his behalf
- No recognisable mail, neutral invoice
- Partners are welcome at the intake
- No pills, no surgery
- 7+ international meta-analyses confirm the effectiveness
- Read how other men experienced the treatment
Most men say the same thing afterwards: "I should have done this much sooner." Often it was the partner who took the first step.